Melly's Musings | Right Where I Should Be

Ever find yourself comparing your life to others? You're not the only one...

This is just a quick one. It's tough being a twenty-something in 2015. Not just because you can still feel like you're finding your way in this world but because of all the ways we can find ourselves comparing. 

I find myself doing it occasionally. 

Should I be married by now? 

Should I have my own place?

Should my business be bigger than this? 

Should I be off travelling the world right now?

And then last week, I just got fed up of whining and realised that worrying about what I feel like I should be doing will take my focus and joy away from today. 

I had to give myself a few home truths. Although I do want to get married, move out, grow Honey Bee (and the numerous other ideas in my head), see a bit of the world and all that jazz, I don't need it all right now. 

Being single is actually pretty amazing right now. It makes me sad and angry when I see people walk away from their dreams because someone paid them a bit of attention. And worse than that? People who are in poor quality relationships because they're too low on confidence to be alone. If you're afraid to be alone, is your company really worth sharing?

The harsh truth is, if I'd married the person I thought I was going to, I'd be miserable. Relationships are awesome when you get them right.  And I'd rather work on bringing the best version of myself to mine. 

As far as moving out goes, that'll happen when the time is right. I'm happy at home. I like coming home to my dinner. I'm blessed with a great family. I could do what others my age do: move out and rent. Maybe I will one day but until then, why bother with the unnecessary expense? 

I am so passionate about Honey Bee right now that I'm sure the growth will follow. It's difficult sometimes and it takes daily trust, sacrifice and faith but you know what? I wouldn't change it and I know that the work will pay off. I know that I'd be much less satisfied working this hard solely for someone else's dreams. If I was filthy rich right now, I'd probably blow it all anyway. I'm going to do everything I can to design my life how I want it and then see my dreams come to life. 

Over the years, friends of mine have packed up and disappeared abroad. I never really envied them before but on my difficult days (you know, the ones filled with admin, grey skies and phone calls that you'd rather avoid), I fantasise about just leaving it all and hopping on a plane. And one day, I intend to. I've stopped looking at the Facebook profiles and Instagram's of people who've moved away. Know why? Because it makes me sad. I'm so happy for them but I don't need another reason to make unnecessary comparisons or another reason to miss them.

D'you like the reading chair? It's the new addition to the BeeHive

I love social media. It's a part of how I make my living. But I'm giving myself permission to take a break now and then. Did you know you can go out and not take a selfie? If I ever find myself mindlessly scrolling through my feeds, I have to stop and ask myself why. Remember: we only show the most polished sides of ourselves on social media. Whenever you feel a little pang of jealousy or sadness because someone has what you think you deserve, take your focus off that and do something that makes you happy. 

Everyday, I find reasons to be thankful...and there are so many. It really helps to shift your perspective. Right now, I'm where I should be. It's okay to want what you want - just don't drive yourself so crazy over it that you miss out on the amazing moment and opportunities right in front of your face. 

Relax, it's going to be okay. 

If you made it through this post, I'd love to hear some things that you're thankful for. Drop me a tweet.

Lots of love, 

Melly 

xoxo