Melly's Musings | Dealing with Disappointment
All of us will feel disappointed at some point in our lives. It's how you handle it that's important...
Unfortunately, none of us can escape disappointment. It can be simple things like your cup of tea not turning out quite right or something major like a betrayal in a friendship.
The fact of the matter is, we have all experienced that sinking feeling, tinged with some sadness.
The sooner you choose to move on from whatever it is that disappointed you, the better. Your attitude in this situation means everything. Was it another person who let you down? Forgive them. They may have done what they did on purpose. Harbouring that negativity will only affect you in the long run.
Maybe it was a job that you really wanted. It's okay. The timing may not be right. You may still have a lot to learn. Sometimes, when we experience disappointment or rejection, it is actually to save us from something. There have been many occasions where I have hoped and prayed for what I thought I wanted, only to see, months and years down the line, that it wouldn't have been right for me.
Often, we are most disappointed because everything seemed right. That business venture should have worked out. You did have the skills for that promotion. That person you thought was right for you ticked every box. There's no explanation for why things don't work out but I believe that as time passes, it will make sense. You'll have peace. You'll see things differently.
Dealing with disappointment...
Refuse to wallow
It's okay to feel sad. We all do at some point but then you have to choose to move on. No matter how much it hurts, the sooner you decide that you're going to be okay, the sooner you'll start to feel better.
Do things that make you happy
It's all too easy to get caught up in your feelings but why not do something deliberately to make yourself smile? Play dress up; wear that shirt that you're saving for 'best', today. Buy yourself a nice coffee.
Be kind to someone
Shifting your focus to someone else can make a world of difference. The world doesn't actually revolve around us and it takes less energy to encourage another person than it does to wallow.
Count your blessings
When you feel let down in a situation, it can be tough to see beyond it. There is always a reason to be thankful. The fact that you even have a device to read this on is a blessing. If you have family, friends, food, shelter, you have a lot.
Unfortunately, none of us can escape disappointment. It can be simple things like your cup of tea not turning out quite right or something major like a betrayal in a friendship.
The fact of the matter is, we have all experienced that sinking feeling, tinged with some sadness.
The sooner you choose to move on from whatever it is that disappointed you, the better. Your attitude in this situation means everything. Was it another person who let you down? Forgive them. They may have done what they did on purpose. Harbouring that negativity will only affect you in the long run.
Maybe it was a job that you really wanted. It's okay. The timing may not be right. You may still have a lot to learn. Sometimes, when we experience disappointment or rejection, it is actually to save us from something. There have been many occasions where I have hoped and prayed for what I thought I wanted, only to see, months and years down the line, that it wouldn't have been right for me.
Often, we are most disappointed because everything seemed right. That business venture should have worked out. You did have the skills for that promotion. That person you thought was right for you ticked every box. There's no explanation for why things don't work out but I believe that as time passes, it will make sense. You'll have peace. You'll see things differently.
Dealing with disappointment...
Refuse to wallow
It's okay to feel sad. We all do at some point but then you have to choose to move on. No matter how much it hurts, the sooner you decide that you're going to be okay, the sooner you'll start to feel better.
Do things that make you happy
It's all too easy to get caught up in your feelings but why not do something deliberately to make yourself smile? Play dress up; wear that shirt that you're saving for 'best', today. Buy yourself a nice coffee.
Be kind to someone
Shifting your focus to someone else can make a world of difference. The world doesn't actually revolve around us and it takes less energy to encourage another person than it does to wallow.
Count your blessings
When you feel let down in a situation, it can be tough to see beyond it. There is always a reason to be thankful. The fact that you even have a device to read this on is a blessing. If you have family, friends, food, shelter, you have a lot.
No matter how things look right now, it will get better.
Lots of love,
Melly
xox
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